In reading Mary Carol Moore's blog post this week, I realized that this inner critic is not just present in writers, or artists, or other creative types --- this inner critic is present in anyone who strives for perfection. Those of us who are attempting to free ourselves from the tyranny of perfectionism (I posted about that topic here) need to learn to silence this inner critic as well. In our pursuit for excellence, we are stifling the joy of life.
On her blog, Mary Carol Moore suggests an exercise that I think would be useful for me as a person - not just a writer. I thought I might post it here, in case other perfectionists might like to try it as well:
Write a letter to your Inner Critic.
Begin your letter to the Inner Critic with gratitude--always a good way to soften any resistance. Yes, you may be fuming at the chains, but start by thanking this part of yourself (for it is) for its never-ending vigilance.
Then renegotiate your contract. What can you ask for that would give you more freedom?I do believe that there is something useful in giving credence to this abstract entity. I think acknowledging its existence, but admonishing its control, could be a positive step forward in embracing the life that I truly want to live.