The very first chapter offers a 23 question self-assessment - but the test can also be found online here. Supposedly if you answer 12 of the 23 questions in the affirmative, then you are considered "HSP" I answered 19 questions in the affirmative --- 10 of which strongly describe my temperament. Here are my ten defining characteristics:
- Other people's moods affect me.
- I find myself needing to withdraw during busy days, into bed or into a darkened room or any place where I can have some privacy and relief from stimulation.
- I have a rich, complex inner life.
- I am conscientious.
- I get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time.
- I am annoyed when people try to get me to do too many things at once.
- I become unpleasantly aroused when a lot is going on around me.
- I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations.
- Being very hungry creates a strong reaction in me, disrupting my concentration or mood.
- When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise.
- I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment.
- I am made uncomfortable by loud noises.
- I am deeply moved by the arts or music.
- I startle easily.
- When people are uncomfortable in a physical environment I tend to know what needs to be done to make it more comfortable.
- I make it a point to avoid violent movies and TV shows.
- Changes in my life shake me up.
- I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art.
- When I was a child, my parents or teachers seemed to see me as sensitive or shy.
Why do I bother sharing this on the blog? I suppose I have two reasons. First of all, for those of you who may also feel somewhat on the fringe of society - that you don't quite belong but you don't know why - I thought perhaps you could find yourself within the pages of this book as I have. And secondly, for those who do know me, perhaps this will give you a bit of insight into the "real" me: the one who may seem anti-social but really is just overwhelmed; the one who may seem stressed, but is just trying to multi-task when her temperament is singularly focused; the one who may seem depressed but that is only because someone close to her is sad and she carries the burden as well.
Lately my world has been filled with all kinds of loss and changes (both good and bad) ... and this constant shifting of the sands has caused me to retreat - to hibernate - because I knew no other way to handle it. And when that is compounded by the fact that I felt as though I was the only one in the world to feel this way -- to be overwhelmed by life -- well, I just wanted to withdraw from society. But I now know that I am not crazy... I am not a misfit ... I am Highly Sensitive, and I can accept that.