tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post5596887392173606872..comments2024-01-18T00:32:55.427-06:00Comments on my cozy book nook: Pardon Me....Mollyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08414201637917215413noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-34960577778022457362011-01-22T20:06:43.916-06:002011-01-22T20:06:43.916-06:00As moms we couldn't spend as much time doing o...As moms we couldn't spend as much time doing one chore as our kids did because they only had a few things to do and plenty of time to do them. We, on the other hand, have so many things that need to be done.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05554217416500328610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-21794712721562508352011-01-15T20:57:36.739-06:002011-01-15T20:57:36.739-06:00This is an eerie coincidence, because I was just m...This is an eerie coincidence, because I was just mentally comparing myself to you; you actually finished NaNoWriMo (for me it was NaNoFailMo), you teach (as I do), have a family, and seem to do so much. I love that you shared these thoughts with your readers, and I appreciate your musings.bibliophiliachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15495943887513443615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-4804412933709253322011-01-15T06:52:05.663-06:002011-01-15T06:52:05.663-06:00Except for my work, it's all too easy for me t...Except for my work, it's all too easy for me to forget the shoulds. :)Beth Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08627666337961326265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-71639313119927197622011-01-14T17:44:10.391-06:002011-01-14T17:44:10.391-06:00Getting over the tyranny of "shoulds" is...Getting over the tyranny of "shoulds" is a moment-by-moment thing. We need to be aware of when we're doing it to ourselves. Our personality type (which we both share)has an image of what perfection looks like, and unfortunately, reality never meets our expectations. I'm trying to learn to enjoy the imperfection I see in things. I'm learning, when I goof up (in storytimes or other venue) to be an example of someone who can say, "It's okay to make a mistake," to my audience. <br /><br />Like you, I still don't listen to music very often. I find it far too distracting and I enjoy much more the precious free time I can sometimes spare to be a companion to my own thoughts ... terribly necessary, when puzzling out the myriad details of a novel.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16900383840255608898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-83709253211877034812011-01-14T06:45:33.667-06:002011-01-14T06:45:33.667-06:00I am so envious of your snow!I am so envious of your snow!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07026099426503180472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-39868544450140164652011-01-13T21:35:36.381-06:002011-01-13T21:35:36.381-06:00Really good post, Molly. I don't struggle wit...Really good post, Molly. I don't struggle with shoulds, so much as guilt over not doing more. I lie at the opposite end of the spectrum, where sometimes getting things done is my challenge. And yet, I don't always relax and enjoy, either. I've made it a practice the last few years to try to be in the moment, wherever I am. It doesn't always work! and sometimes I find I don't want to be where I am, which is scary! and then I think, I want to create a life I can live in, and be in, and not worry about what other people think any more. So I really hope you played all day during your second snow day!<br /><br />I'm thrilled you got two snow days there, but wondering where the snow is for us, since we haven't had any kind of snow storm yet this winter, and barely any snow on the ground! I think it's all with you!<br /><br />Take care. Alot of older albums are on cd now, so all your favourites are going to be there at your music store. Not that they are old to me either, but in the younger generation's eyes they are, at least until they discover them on their own! lol who knew that my son would suddenly like Led Zeppelin one day! and the Rolling Stones!Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09095246748581382752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-64429680498649297152011-01-13T18:58:47.669-06:002011-01-13T18:58:47.669-06:00I think so many people (women especially) can rela...I think so many people (women especially) can relate to your feelings of stress and guilt. I do think we need to let go of our impossible expectations of perfection and the shoulds we carry around like weights and just do what we can and take time to ENJOY life as we live it. Good luck ... I wish you joy and peace and more music!Jennershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044537551139633301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-73123237854480486992011-01-13T12:36:39.501-06:002011-01-13T12:36:39.501-06:00As always I can relate to much of what you struggl...As always I can relate to much of what you struggle with Molly. I have learned or really am still learning that every day doesn't need to have a plan. I can and should let a Saturday just unfold. Maybe I will watch a movie or read a book or stare out into space or whatever but I don't have to fill my day with "must dos" and be on a schedule. It is definitely a work in progress but I am learning and your blog is continuing to inspire me to work on this so thanks for sharing!Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01739982274914536036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-47623945111472893952011-01-12T19:13:15.815-06:002011-01-12T19:13:15.815-06:00What a great post Molly! You summed up what I have...What a great post Molly! You summed up what I have started trying to do... but could never put in those wonderful words and phrases. The "shoulds" are a hard habit to break but I know we can do it. <br /><br />I'm jealous of your 2 snow days. Much of Vermont was closed today, but not the northern part where I live. I promise if we get one this year I will leave the should's behind and enjoy more free day!Nanhttp://nanscorner.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-67549830511164095822011-01-11T22:58:34.183-06:002011-01-11T22:58:34.183-06:00Molly, I can completely relate to what you've ...Molly, I can completely relate to what you've written because in big parts I'm a should-person as well. I'm working on kicking that "should" in the butt which of course doesn't always work, but there has been improvement. While I could always let housework be housework (i.e. I just didn't do it if I didn't want to) this is different with exercise, preparing my classes etc. Often I can't even sit down during the day and just read a book. That is one of my goals for 2011, to be more at ease and just sit and read. BTW, your writing is excellent and a mere joy to read. You definiteley ARE a creative person.Carola Bartzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05536486322412234854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-76320889239970963192011-01-11T21:13:53.213-06:002011-01-11T21:13:53.213-06:00I use to be a lot like this Molly, but as I got ol...I use to be a lot like this Molly, but as I got older, I changed, and since then my life almost stress-free.<br /><br />Love the snow shots, we are in for more snow (beginning after midnight here.(Diane) Bibliophile By the Seahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10519875632878992728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-10237854749839035152011-01-11T19:38:59.688-06:002011-01-11T19:38:59.688-06:00Dear Molly, I think most of us can totally relate ...Dear Molly, I think most of us can totally relate to what you wrote! I am such a "should" person it's not funny! I constantly have to engage in self talk giving myself permission to just play, to be imperfect, to enjoy my day. It does get easier with time! So, did you play today? Did you make a mess?!? Love, SIlkeSilke Powershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17094855019089665976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-80399902148763834492011-01-11T15:20:34.335-06:002011-01-11T15:20:34.335-06:00Oh, Molly, I could have written this. I certainly...Oh, Molly, I could have written this. I certainly could have written it several months ago. I have an evil little woman that lives in my mind (I call her a really sinful name that I won't repeat), but she is a small troll who jumps up and down and tells me what I SHOULD BE DOING and that I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH. I can't stand her and have been getting better at telling her to SHUT UP!!<br /><br />It's hard keeping all the plates spinning and all the balls in the air. Dear friend, I suspect part of this is worry over your mother's condition and the stress that places on you. Maybe not, but it doesn't help. <br /><br />Good for you for taking some time and resolving to have a "joyful" day. I pray that joy will occur in your life more and more as you work with your inner voices and turn your thoughts to less anxious paths. Hugs big time! Always feel free to email me and rant about whatever. I do understand and I will always listen. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-13830223786175140342011-01-11T13:21:43.524-06:002011-01-11T13:21:43.524-06:00I am a bit of an overachiever as well, but I have ...I am a bit of an overachiever as well, but I have mellowed over time. I have been known, in the middle of cleaning the house, to sit down and make a phone call to a good friend, or play a few games of solitaire! Bravo to you for letting yourself play. You should carve out a little bit time every week to do that!Sandy Nawrothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00564390728106776030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-38527922404913216432011-01-11T11:55:11.478-06:002011-01-11T11:55:11.478-06:00All I can think of to say is "Wow". Don...All I can think of to say is "Wow". Don't worry about your creativity - you have it in great heaps in the writing category. That is a beautifully written, introspective, revealing post. I admire your diligence to the "shoulds" because I definitely do not share your organized, scheduled side. And I also admire your desire to "have fun". I hope your snow day is relaxing, creative and FUN!Tamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16094928747500699123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7736127069847988207.post-30470086707756605032011-01-11T10:47:54.298-06:002011-01-11T10:47:54.298-06:00Oh Molly, this left me with a sense of anxiousness...Oh Molly, this left me with a sense of anxiousness as I am a 'should' person too. Even as I sit reading this, I keep thinking I should be doing the ironing, or I should be laying the table for dinner. I know I need to calm down a bit and enjoy my life, but it is so hard. I really think I need to read the last two books you mentioned.serendipity_vivhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07156013023056026525noreply@blogger.com